So it’s been 10 days since I first got infected by the COVID-19 virus. I just want to share some of the phone calls that I had during my self-isolation.
Highschool Romance
I had a call with one of my friends from a different university. We were currently talking about how she just broke up with her boyfriend. Then her sister shows up. She’s currently talking to her friend about a person that she likes while hinting to him that he is that guy. So I and her sister decided to help her out.
I tell her to text it like this. I help her to make it playful in the text. As she followed our advice, I ask her about him. “So why do you like him?”
“Idk really. It’s just that he’s the only guy that I want to spend my life with.”
You can imagine my face when she said this.
It Doesn’t Matter
So I told her “it’s interesting to see how you said you want to be with this guy ‘cause you think you’d spend the rest of your life with him. While your sister and I know that in the end, it won’t probably matter whether you’ll be with him or not. If you don’t end up with him, you’ll probably fall in love again, and chances are with someone better. And you’ll forget why you ever liked this guy in the first place.”
As I’m saying those exact words to her, I thought to myself, “Huh, there’s very little of what truly matters in life.” Especially when you have COVID, and you’re stuck for 10 days ruminating about your life, you’ll quickly realize what your priorities are. It’s not about the person that stops texting you. Or the hangouts that you miss. Or any of that. At the end of the day, none of it matters.
While watching Chris Hemsworth’s new documentary, I’ve come up with a list of priorities.
Health. I want to play with my grandkids. I want to see what my body is capable of. I want to be mobile till old age.
Wealth. I want to spend my time doing something meaningful for myself and society. I want to spend some of my money helping people that are less fortunate. I want to help people that want to build businesses.
Relationship. I want to have a partner with who I can share my struggles and wins. I want to be in a community of like-minded people, preferably talking about psychology.
And that’s about it. When you die, you’ll probably realize even more that you don’t mean anything (outside of the people that truly know you). So while you’re still alive, just remember: It’s always in your hand.
You decide how important something is by the amount of fucks you give to it. So don’t give it to things that will not matter in the end.